Reality Bites: Shauna Sand-Lamas

Elizabeth Thompson

Often photographed wearing revealing get-ups and a pair of sky-high Lucite heels, former Playboy playmate Shauna Sand-Lamas clearly isn't shy. No surprise, then, that after a sex tape she made was leaked to adult entertainment purveyors, Vivid, she briefly tried to block the video's release before eventually signing off on Shauna Sand Exposed. "I'm not ashamed," the thrice-divorced (her second husband was Lorenzo Lamas) model told Reality Bites in a recent interview. Here, Sand-Lamas, who is currently filming German reality show Exclusive, weighs in on other topics including the letter she penned to dethroned Miss California Carrie Prejean, tips for walking in stilettos, her purported affair with her stepson, and why she's none too pleased with Star magazine and E!.    
You're doing a reality show for German TV right now?

Yeah, I'm really well-known there. I'm actually more well-known in France. I'm extremely famous there because I speak French. I did a TV show in July in France and I actually work, like, once a week, doing photo shoots in Los Angeles and those photographs are sent straight to Paris with my French agency. Since July, I've been on like, two magazine covers there a week.

Why do you think you've been so successful in Europe?

Well, I'd say my fame in Germany is comparable to what it is in America. But I speak French, and in France, it's very rare for an American to speak perfect French. I still have an accent, which is really charming. It's like Brigitte Bardot speaking English with her sexy French accent. Plus, I'm a playmate, plus I'm blond. Well, not really -- but because of highlights, I am. But they have a dream, like the American dream, to come to America to do acting, and modeling, and Playboy. So I'm very successful there.

Why did you decide to release your sex tape to Vivid?

I didn't want to deal with an expensive, stressful lawsuit. I cannot stand going to court. I've been married three times, and with my divorce from [Lamas] I lived in court for four years. It was probably one of the most traumatizing experiences of my life, and I just didn't want to go through that stress again. I was pretty upset the initial week that I was dealing with the shock of the sex tape getting out there, but I tried to find a positive way of looking at it, a lucrative way of looking at it. I made it with my ex-boyfriend who I had such an amazing chemistry with. I don't know if I'll ever find that again in this lifetime. We were on vacation, and it was so passionate and so romantic, and we were really in love.

How did the tape get leaked?

I don't know. I've been living in hotels for about eight months, in Miami and Paris and now Los Angeles. There are so many people that work in hotels who are in and out of your room. I can't blame anyone because I don't have 100% proof, but let's just say I'm missing a lot of expensive, personal belongings. Basically, I haven't been living in secure places.

When it came out that Carrie Prejean had made sex tapes, you wrote her a letter encouraging her to release them. Did she respond to you?

No. I never got a response.

If you could talk to her, what would you say?

I would tell her to go ahead and release [the tapes] and to be proud of what she did. I don't know why everybody is so hung up on seeing sex in such a negative way, like it's a sin. It's beautiful, especially if you're with someone that you love and care about.

Where do you get your Lucite heels from?

I make them. Once I have a little more time, I'm going to launch the line. But right now I'm just designing shoes for myself. 

Do you ever read You're often referred to as the 'Empress of Lucite.'

[Laughs] Yeah. That site has been a fan of mine.

Do you have any tips for walking in stilettos?

I've been walking in them for so long. I was a ballerina, so my balance is amazing and I'm used to being on my toes in point shoes. But I also think my stilettos are quite deceiving because they're so comfortable. I have three daughters, who are almost nine, 10 and 12 and even when my kids were like, two, they were able to walk in the stilettos. They're really not that high because they have a platform so once you get used to them, they're so easy to walk in. [Wearing stilettos] is like exercising without exercising. When you wear them, you're actually working your legs and your butt and you can get beautiful muscle definition.

And you can wear them on a Segway.

The lady who rented me that Segway was having a heart attack. She was like, 'My insurance company is going to kill me,' because I took off my helmet and put on my stilettos. But I've never even tripped in those shoes. I love them. I can't walk barefoot. I'll walk barefoot in the sand on the beach, but if the sand is too hot, I'll have my stilettos on.

How tall are you?

I'm tiny. I'm only 5'4". So I can wear [stilettos]. If I was like 5'9", it would be ridiculous.

Are you single right now?

Yes. In fact, I've broken up with the boyfriend I was in the sex tape with. I've been single for three months. I've always been married or engaged or living with somebody. This is the first time in my life that I just felt like I needed to be alone and wait for the right person, instead of settling. I've been with the wrong people that I thought had potential, or people who just bought chaos to my life.... I had a third, nightmare husband from France who basically used me for a green card and social security. It's probably my fault, because I marry people without really knowing them. I'm a hopeless romantic, but I think I need to take my time. It's OK to move in with someone, but now I'll wait like a couple weeks or a couple days to marry them.

How do you think the rumor got started that you cheated on Lorenzo with your then 18-year-old stepson, A.J. Lamas?

Well, he was my friend after I got divorced from Lorenzo. And he was friends with my ex-fiancé -- a different one -- and when I get separated in 2002 he would come over and stay with me. We'd go out, and sometimes he'd be too tired to drive home so he'd stay over. I think that got misconstrued. 'Oh, he's sleeping at her place' turned into, 'He's having sex with her.' It really, really aggravated me because E! and Star magazine just took that and ran with it. Scandal and controversy sells. So they put that story on the cover of Star, which E! used to promote [Lorenzo Lamas' E! reality series Leave it to Lamas]. I thought that was disgusting. There are certain things I'm OK with exaggerating for good drama or good reality TV, but when you're going to take it and make me look bad? I was really mad. They put it out there and I'm going to have to defend myself for the rest of my life. And I will. It's part of the business.

That seems like a wise attitude to have.

Every day it's something new. And you can laugh at it because you know it's not the person you are inside. I have good morals and ethics and values and I'm really a family person. Just because I have a sex tape out there, or just because people said I slept with my stepson, doesn't mean that I'm not a good-hearted person. You have to look at it like, 'If they're talking about me, then that's great. If they care enough to talk about me, then that's amazing.' The minute that they stop, is the day I can be worried.

Shauna Sand-Lamas will appear at Rick's Cabaret-NYC, on Thursday, January 21, from 6-8 p.m. to sign DVDs of Shauna Sand Exposed. 50 W. 33rd St., (212) 372-0850. 

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